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How do you make others feel?

It makes me really sad knowing that other people have the ability to make us feel a certain way.

Sometimes its happy, sometimes it’s sad and sometimes it’s just downright ugly.

When I’ve been asked what I would like my own personal legacy to be, it doesn’t. take me long to. respond.  I just want to know that I am known for being kind and never ever making anyone feel uncomfortable…regardless what the situation.

There are a couple of different scenarios going on in my life right now.  Personal family concerns. One of which has been “in the process” for just about two years.

During this “process” of dealing with this family affair, I have been reminded many times over how many different personalities there are and how different everyone is in dealing with concerns, issues, processes…..whatever you want to call it.

I have been reminded, how important it is to not let someones anger, fear or frustration become a part of you.  I have been reminded, the importance of understanding, not everyone acts the same nor thinks the same as you do.

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This may seem like an easy task, it’s not. Whether you are dealing with family or your servicing customers, the ability to accept who they are and the ability to realize how they treat you is not necessarily because of you.  Everyone has their own demons.

In my personal situation, there is alot of anger involved. I don’t know why and I truly have a difficult time understanding where this anger comes from. This anger (not from me), shows it’s ugly head in such a vicious manner, it’s hard for me to wrap my brain around it.

Because of that, I find myself reacting to the anger in lieu of facing it. Why? Because it’s someone else’s anger, not mine. I can’t control it. Therefore, I “react” to it instead of managing it.

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In my professional life, it’s not so much and anger thing. It’s an intimidation thing.

I allow myself to feel intimidated in some circumstances because maybe the clients I’m dealing with, aren’t as warm and fuzzy as I would like them to be. Therefore, something must be wrong.

However, I find more often than not, that person who I am allowing to intimidate me, isn’t even that way at all. Perhaps there is another under lying issue which that person is dealing with and that issue is causing his/her attitude.

I call this…wearing your emotions on your sleeve!

The problem with that… affect everyone around you

I read something recently on FaceBook.

Ships don’t sink because of the water around them. They sink because of the water that gets inside them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside of you and weight you down.


This statement is so true and we have to remember this not only when it comes to how other people make us feel. Also, to remember how are WE making others feel?

  • Are you tired today?
  • Are you cranky today?
  • Did your spouse upset you today?
  • Did a car cut you off today?

How, by what happened to you, are you making others feel around you?

When it comes to our Businesses and our clients, we have to remember….that moment when you have their hands in yours or their feet in your hands….it’s THEIR moment.  Be in THAT moment with them.

Don’t be telling them how pissed off you are because someone cut you off on the way to work. Don’t be telling them all your personal garbage that weighs you and them down. Don’t be talking problems, issues, miserable tones and unhappy situations when we are in the Business of making people feel good.

How you feel is how they will feel.

We have to remember there is an aura around all of us and that aura can stretch many feet around us. People feel, people sense. We have to be careful about what we “put out there”.

Finally, we have to remember kindness goes a very long way. This is not just a golden rule, it’s a must for the service industry. WE are at service to others and kindness, a happy attitude, positive reflection and bringing joy to others is and always should be…..who we are!


Reflect on your day! Are you giving the best of you to your clients?

CJ Murray, President Centre For Beauty

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    More! Fun with Feet

    I had such an overwhelming response on our Fun with Feet blog last week, I couldn’t help but want to share more with you.

    I thank all of you for your comments and emails regarding how interesting it was to read and because you asked for more… it is.

    I so often hear, in fact just the other day….”I could never work in a Business of feet”….”yucky yuck”.

    I shouldn’t, but I do take offense to that statement because the Business of feet is so highly under-estimated.  So many people have the mis-conception that working with feet is ALL bad.  Well, I’m here to tell you it is not.  In fact, working with feet is very rewarding.

    Not only do we have the opportunity to make people look better through the process of pedicuring. We also have the opportunity to help them feel better, through the process of pedicuring.

    In addition, we have the opportunity to help them understand the importance of their feet and how our feet carry us around for a lifetime.

    So, if someone tells YOU they could never do what you do.  Say “Thank you”.  We are a rare breed who don’t just look at feet for the sake of Pedicuring.  We look at feet to help people, change their lives and introduce them to a whole new world of how we have advanced in so many areas when it comes to the education of feet.

    Let’s get some more education that you can share.  Let’s have some “FUN WITH FEET”

    Babylonian pedicure

    Pedicuring nails can date back 4,000 years. It is said noblemen from Babylonian used solid gold tools to give themselves manicures and pedicures.

    The use of fingernail polish can be traced back even further. As early as 3000 BC, in China nail color indicated one’s social status.  Royal fingernails were painted black and red. All the way back to 2300 BC, the Egyptians (who earn the credit for inventing pedicures) have been manicuring & pedicuring.  They too used Ruby red as an indication or royal status.

    Did you know also?  In ancient Egypt and Rome, military commanders polished their nails to match their lips before they went into battle?


    Did you know there were superstitions about cutting your nails?  Yup…no joke!

    A passage from an article about superstitions was posted in the Boston Globe in 1889

    “It is unlucky to cut the finger nails on Friday, Saturday or Sunday. If you cut them on Friday you are playing into the devil’s hand; on Saturday, you are inviting disappointment, and on Sunday, you will have bad luck all week.

    There are people who suffer all sorts of gloomy forebodings if they absentmindedly trim away a bit of nail on any of these days and who will suffer all the inconvenience of overgrown fingernails sooner than cut them after Thursday.”


    Speaking of cutting fingernails.  the nail clipper wasn’t always a “thing”.

    It’s not really clear who invented the modern fingernail clipper, however patents started to appear for fingernail trimmers around 1875.

    We do know if you’ve ever used a paring knife to peel an apple, that’s how fingernails were cut before there was a designated tool for it, whether using an actual knife or small scissors. 

    Lets look at a couple early designs of “fingernail cutting tools”

    It’s so interesting to me, when we look back at the history of nails, many things seems so archaic, or are they?  Red nail polish is still red nail polish.  The tools have improved of course, but there are some very basic similarities.  There were specialist then and there are specialist now.

    As I write this, I am reminded of a commercial where there are 2 men standing on one side of a cliff, watching a man on a horse coming towards them from the other side of the cliff.  The one man say’s “if only he had something to get across”.  Well, there was no “bridge” and the man and the horse fall into the crevice of the cliff.

    Ideas come, they go. However someone at sometime invents and creates tools needed to solve a problem.  And, over time, those tools are perfected.

    The problems of feet have always been there.  The tools have always been there.  They have just through the progression of time, been perfected.

    CJ Murray, President Centre For Beauty

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      Fun with Feet

      On a typical day when I’m in town, I am usually out of my office between 6:15 and 7pm.  We all have our after work routines (I would think).  Mine consist of first changing into my gym clothes, feeding my dogs and turning “The Big Bang Theory” (reruns) on at 7pm.


      I was never into the show when it was live, but for some reason I now find it’s dry humor to be quite hilarious.


      One evening I was watching and Sheldon, the main character (in the event you’ve never seen it), was doing this segment “Fun with Maps”.  The whole thing is rather silly however, I immediately started thinking about what if I did a segment called “Fun with Feet”?

      My first thought was to do a weekly “Fun with Feet” vlog.  NOT!  Just can’t commit first of all to  (another) weekly commitment AND, I am no where near the likes of Mike Baxter (Tim Allen) of “Last Man Standing”

      So, with all the imagination I could muster up, I decided to write a “Fun with Feet” blog.  Who knows, maybe eventually this could turn into…nahhh probably not.

      The feet industry is so serious, (as it should be).  However, there is a whole history of feet stories, feet chronicles that can be quite alarming, quite funny and actually quite educational.

      feet dna

      To begin with.  Did you know “according to the Family”, learning your DNA of earlier heritage is as simple as looking at your feet and toes?

      • The Egyptian or Arabian Toes when all the toes taper down in size from the large big long toe.
      • The Greek Toes with the second toe next to the big toe is very long, even greater in length than the big toe. The rest of the toes taper down in size from the second toe. We refer to as the Morton Toe
      • From the central European region would be the Germanic Toes, where only the big toe is long and all the other four toes are the same size
      • The United Kingdom region with Scotland, Ireland, Wales and England might be the source of the Celtic Toes. The big toe is short, followed by a long second toe and the third, fourth and fifth toe cab vary in length. Some might be short and then next to it a longer toe.

      Although this theory has not been scientifically proven,  these “Fun with Feet” facts I bet made you look down.

      Foot Binding

      Foot-binding was a practice first carried out on young girls in Tang Dynasty China to restrict their normal growth and make their feet as small as possible.  Apparently this was just one way to distinguish the poor from the wealthy.  This practice more shockingly, continued right up until the 20th century.

      The process was such that the big toe was left facing forwards while the four smaller toes were bent under the foot. In this position, the feet were tightly bound using long strips of cloth, which then restricted any future growth and gave the foot a pronounced arch. 

      The feet were then unbound after one month, any ulcerations of the skin treated, and the foot rebound again. The bindings were loosened and retightened each month until the girl reached her early teens (or even longer depending on the desired effect).

      It was not uncommon for one or more toes to be lost or to have infections in the foot or gangrene. Even as an adult a woman continued to wrap her deformed feet in bindings, wearing them at all times in public and when bathing.

      If that’s not amazing enough., this process began when the female was 5-8 years old.


      Foot binding



      The history of caring for feet begins in the ancient past. The first pedicure textbook was published in Paris in 1762 by the Royal surgeon Rousselot.

      Well groomed feet soon became a status symbol

      In the early 20 century, William Scholl (1882-1968) began offering pedicures to the public as well.  It quickly caught on. In Czechoslovakia, J. A. Baťa began a drive for healthy feet of his customers in the late 1920.

      What’s interesting, even back then it is stated that “Theoretically, there should have been a trained pedicurist in every Baťa store to advise customers on foot health.”

      It wasn’t until after the war, Kocourek published a textbook Theory and practice of pedicure(1956).

      This exhibit in the NML Medical Museum presents the history of Czechoslovak pedicure from the show factory owner J. A. Baťa and the “Baťa pedicurist”. The museum holds many tools, instruments and books on the history of the care for the feet. The exhibit shows 1930s corn planes manufactured and used in Czechoslovakia, scissors, razors and tinctures or the “Fix-Nix” paste for chemical removal of bunions and corns.


      We always say the feet of 50 years ago are not the same as our feet today.  The reality however, they are.  Many things we do now have always been done….just perfected.  Many things our feet go through, they have always been through…..just worse.

      Our lifestyles have changed.  Our nutrition has changed.  Our environment has changed.  However, caring for the feet has not

      CJ Murray, President Centre For Beauty Salon Supply

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