The way we are

My husband and I have been traveling for Business almost every weekend since May. Time home is far and few between.

This weekend is the first in many, many weeks that I haven’t worked a weekend. However, I did offer my Professional thoughts to the son of my new Massage Therapist and Esthetician. He is new out of school and he enjoys doing Pedicures.

We scheduled a pedicure for me this morning. I asked him up front, would he prefer I offer my thoughts or advice as it’s happening or would he prefer to wait till the end? He opted for the end.


I spent 2 hours on my off day to do what I absolutely love to do…help others. It was so fun and so rewarding, it didn’t feel like it was work. In addition, much to my surprise he actually did a really good job.

In the end I shared my thoughts and presented to him a couple of fold techniques with the towel and even had the opportunity to review sa’SHá with him. He was extremely receptive and learned my little ambience tricks at the first try. I left thinking to myself….he is going to be the next Nellie Neal. I just absolutely adored him.


As I drove away, I began thinking about how my life has been enhanced since the disappointing loss of my previous Massage Therapist and Esthetician.

I found a client I can support. Her Business is literally 5 minutes from my office. She works a couple nights a week to accommodate us working folk :). She has a variety of different skin care options and she’s a mad scientist in the skin care room. I love it!

And now, I have the opportunity to mentor a young man whom I’m confident will be something in this Industry. A young man with someone to take them under their wing, will climb that ladder to success very quickly.


All that got me thinking about what I really want is to be that person who made a difference in your life. I want to educate you and take you under my wings from a personal level, not from a brand level.

That is what my classes are like. I teach about confidence and how it relates to power via the act of knowledge. I want you to understand the process, not just the steps.


As I was talking with my new friend, offering my thoughts. I first told him how impressed I was. He immediately had a smile on his face and looked over to his Mom….more than likely to see her approval.

Once he realized the positive, he was eager to learn how to improve any negative, or as I like to say “any future positives”. His whole disposition changed and he was hands on in learning new techniques, new thoughts, new processes. Ways to sit and make our jobs physically easier on us. That’s what I want to be. THAT person who helps you realize your own attributes, your own confidence, your own ability. …and then run with your newfound knowledge.


There are a few people through my two main careers, I’ve had the opportunity to be just that. It’s been a while. So, by chance or on purpose, my disappointment steered me in the direction of where I really need to be.


We all have that “something” of who we truly want to be. Some are driven my money and others are driven by passion. The hope is, there is a combination of both.

I don’t consider myself any different than any of you. It’s humbling to hear so many thank you’s over the years about me just being me. It’s mind blowing. If we are who we are and just be…or just do….the accolades aren’t the motivation. Its the people who I can change into the best of their best…because I was there to help.


My Missing Pieces class is coming to our Centre For Beauty education center in the fall. We already have four missing pieces segments. I’m about to add a 5th and 6th. Confidence, Knowledge and how lack of either of these can have some very negative impacts.

It’s a bump in the road, a stumbling block if you will. However, you can climb over it, jump over it, fly over it. Either way, you can get to the other side. The side you need to draw 0ut your success.

If you aren’t being who you truly are doing what you truly love to do; it’s time for a re-evaluation! A re-invention!


CJ Murray, President

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7 thoughts on “The way we are”

  1. Hi CJ,
    I learned as much as I can from you, and keep planning to learn year by year. Because of you and all of your articles I was able to learn to earn a lot more compared to working at a nail salon. All of clients see and feel a difference. I am learning to make pedicuring into my own style. I am so glad I connected to Emily because of you. I have been going through a lot in my life the past few years, but I am finally seeing some stability to be able to do more of what I want to do. I can’t wait for future I can finally make a trip to Florida and learn from you and Emily. You definitely made a big impact in my beauty career that I never would od thought was even a possibility.

    1. Esmeralda, I am thrilled to know firstly there is a chance of you coming my way. In addition, the thought of helping you in your career is just heart warming. So often, we don’t always know nor will never know the people we touch. However, it is all YOU. We can only lead you to water, the rest is up to you and you have definitely rode the wave. I’m saddened to hear of your challenges. It sounds though, you have managed not only your challenges but mentally knowing it is only temporary. I foresee you being a force in the future of the Beauty Industry. Your strength and determination can only take you up. Hugs my friend.

  2. I love reading your post, they are all very motivating. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your knowledge. I have learned in this industry that nor everyone wants us to be successful and to be someone strong. There’s those that like to put us down and makes us doubt about ourselves and our career. This industry is tough and either we meet lovely people like you or devils that want to destroy us. Thank you for being so sincere and caring and looking out for those of us that keep on fighting to stay in this industry 💖 ❤️ 💗

    1. Thank you Millie for reading my post, commenting and loving them. It’s words like yours which keep me going, as we all need our cheerleaders regardless of what position we are in. It is unfortunate there are the naysayers in this Industry, yet I believe in general there will always be naysayers. The thing to remember is it’s okay to be different. It’s ok not to follow what everyone else does and if you can look at yourself at the end of the day and feel proud of what you have done and who you are….that’s what counts.

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