My husband and I recently had dinner with some friends we haven't seen in a while. Mrs.(to keep the name private) is a school teacher. Mr. (to keep the name private) is a retired police officer.
For 30 years he protected his city, provided for his wife and kids providing a good pay, health insurance etc. etc. through his department. However, once retired, this stopped and his kids are grown, living their life with boyfriends, homes and work.
We had a very interesting conversation regarding Mr's lack of ability to adjust to this major change in his life. He always thought "retirement" was being able to enjoy life on his own time frame.....with his wife.

However, she still works.

The conversation went in many humorous directions. The bottom line though, retirement isn't what he thought it would be. Because his wife still works, he can but doesn't want to come and go as he pleases. And, any jobs that may keep him busy continues to give him the realization....he's not in his prime anymore.
One question that kept running through my mind as we try to "analyze" his thoughts. Is this a matter of "I don't feel like a success" anymore?  So the questions becomes........

HOW DO YOU MEASURE SUCCESS?

Mom Dad Me

I can remember when my Dad retired.  At the time, nothing seemed any different to me. However, as I got older and would have heart to heart conversations with my Dad, he would tell me he wished he wasn't who he was.....he'd be a lot richer. (more on this later)

Recently, there was an article printed by #nailspro magazine. It highlighted 5 successful women in our Industry. They are all amazing icons and I think it's great they get recognition for their work. However, I found it sad, they all measured success by their product, growth and recognition.

Even though I only know one of them personally, I would venture to say they all have far more reasons to call themselves successful besides basing it on their product and sales.

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This made me start thinking about all the successful clients I have. I wonder if those of you whom I find highly successful even realize you are successful.  Do you measure success by;

  • Your sales
  • Number of clients
  • Your artistic ability
  • Income

Going back to my Dad.  I turned and looked at him and asked...."what would you have done so different?" His response was "he wouldn't have been so honest." I was stunned.

Being honest IS what makes you a success.  Not to mention you raised 7 children, have been married for 60 Yrs (at that time) AND you passed on your values....including Integrity!

I also think back to many of the struggles I've had in my life and it also got me thinking about my own Business.

My struggles put my own integrity to the test. Initially I fought that little devil sitting on my shoulder. In the end though, I always took the high ground and did the right thing.

My Business may not be big, it probably could be a lot bigger.  However, when I look back at my mission statement, which I do often, I stay focused on why I did this in the first place.  "To give the Nail Technician the attention they deserve" "To move us Nail Technicians from the bottom of the totem poll"

In addition, it has always been a frustration of mind, in fact it still is....Companies get so big, they forget the people who got them there in the first place.  This is a conversation I have constantly with my husband.  I never want to lose the personal touch, the customer service, the availability I have to my client for when they need me. I never want to lose touch with no matter how small or how large I may become....it's been YOU who has put me there.

 

So, when I MEASURE SUCCESS -

  • I look at "who did I help today, not who did I sell"
  • I think "am I doing the right thing?" always.....even when no ones looking.
  • I look at being the best I can be.
  • I think about being positive
  • I think about being accepting

Think about it.  Are you doing yourself an injustice by measuring your success through monetary things or do you measure success by the person you are?

CJ Murray, President